You’ve chosen the perfect wedding invitation.  The question most often asked is “Who really needs to get an invitation to my wedding?”    The biggest factor is usually cost when deciding who should get a wedding invitation.  How do you keep your invitation list from becoming too long?  Obviously, there are some people that you know you do want at your wedding:  good friends and close family.  So, when it comes to cutting back, there are a few groups of people to look at first. 

The People You Work With 

The group of people you consider co-workers — and not close friends — is the easiest group to cut from.  This can be difficult as you may feel obligated to invite your boss.  However, the best way to do this is to make a distinct cut-off and stick to it.  Some brides limit their guest lists to just bosses or just those in their department, but to keep things simple, you might consider eliminating all work-related guests.  There is no need to feel awkward about this:  most people understand that weddings are expensive and you need to cut costs where you can. 

Your Extended Family:  The Family You Never See Anyway
Think of extended family like co-workers:  if you are not close to them, then you really shouldn’t feel obligated to send them a wedding invitations.  Some brides simply make a distinct cut-off in the family tree, and this is perfectly acceptable, and perhaps the most fair.  Aunts and uncles may be a “yes,” but you need to leave out the cousins, or maybe great-aunts and great-uncles are in, but you’ll have to drawn the line on your father’s cousins.  Most people are understanding if you just make the cut fair for everyone. 

The People Who Don’t Want To Be There:  Young Children 
Young children are another group to consider if you really have to cut your list down, though this might be one area that will get you in trouble with your guests.  Many parents might enjoy a night out without having to watch their kids, and most kids under 10 don’t like wedding ceremonies anyway.  If you do want to invite children, be sure you put their names on the inner envelope of the wedding invitation.  To exclude kids from your wedding, place the phrase “adults only” on the wedding invitation and be sure not to put the names of the children on the inner envelope. 


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